Is Your Hair’s Porosity Affecting Your Style?

As an intuitive, I get what I call spiritual “downloads” on a regular basis as I am always in tune to receive them. This is true when it comes to my hair also. Lately my hair has been going through some weird changes and it’s almost like the texture of my hair has changed. Immediately I began to seek guidance as to what was going on because I’m a person who prefers my hair to be shiny and moist looking rather than wearing a dry look style and it was looking very dull.

I began to hear the word “porosity” and immediately felt that the porosity of my hair was “low”. I had never researched hair porosity before but after hearing this was intrigued to immediately do so. I wanted to share my findings with my Get Healthy Hair Now community.

The first thing I discovered was that, as I was sensing, my hair does have a low porosity. There are two methods you can use to find out how porous your hair is.

The Float Test: Take a couple of strands of shed hair and drop them into a bowl of water. Let them sit for at least 4 minutes. If your hair floats, you have low porosity. If it sinks, you have high porosity.

The Slip’n’Slide Test: Take a strand of hair and slide your fingers up the shaft (toward the scalp). If you feel little bumps along the way, this means that your cuticle is lifted and that you have high porosity. If your fingers slip smoothly, then you have low porosity hair.

I chose to do the float test. 20 minutes later my hair was still floating on top of the water.

How does the porosity of your hair affect it?

Hair Porosity Denika Carothers


The cuticle layer of hair with low porosity is tightly bound with overlapping scales that lay flat. This type of hair is usually considered to be healthy and is often very shiny. When you try to wet low porosity hair it repels moisture and is difficult to process because it resists penetration of chemicals. These are the heads of hair that when relaxing take a long time to straighten.

Low porosity hair is also prone to product build-up from protein-rich deep conditioning products which can leave the hair feeling stiff and straw-like. If you have low porosity hair you should stick to protein-free daily conditioners and you can add humectants such as glycerin or honey. When using a deep conditioning treatment, be sure that it is free of protein and use moderate heat to help open up the tightly bound cuticle.  Using moisturizers that are rich in emollients such as jojoba oil and coconut oil and humectant products, which attract and hold moisture to your hair, are very beneficial to low porosity hair types. Choose light liquid-based products that won’t sit on your hair leaving it oily or greasy.


Medium porosity hair often requires less maintenance than low and high porosity hair. The cuticle layer is looser which allows for just the right amount of moisture to enter the hair cuticle while preventing too much moisture from escaping. Medium porosity hair tends to hold styles well and can be relaxed and colored with predictable results. It is important to note that these processes over time can cause significant damage to your hair and increase its porosity. Deep conditioning occasionally with protein conditioners can be beneficial to medium porosity hair however do not include proteins in your daily hair regimen.


High porosity hair can be as a result of damage caused by chemical processing or the  environment. It has gaps and holes in the cuticle which allow for too much moisture to penetrate the hair leaving it prone to frizz and tangling in weather that is humid. Simple acts such as bathing, shampooing and swimming can create damage and breakage due to the fact that highly porous hair can absorb high amounts of moisture. Using anti-humectants in high heat and humid climates will help to seal your damaged cuticles and prevent excess moisture from the air being absorbed. Highly porous hair can also lose moisture easily and so using leave-in conditioners, moisturizers and sealers will help your hair to hold the moisture you are giving it. Following up with a heavy hair butter can help to fill in the gaps of your damaged cuticles protecting the hair from losing too much moisture.

What I found to work for my curly hair

Bi-Racial Hair Denika Penn Carothers

After my research this is what I came up with for myself as a low porosity curly hair naturalista (and ironically I did all of this before and had great hair! LOL):

  1. Apply product to damp hair. Because my hair absorbs a lot of water while washing, if I let some of the water go by allowing my hair to dry a little (or blot it dry with a towel) before applying product the product absorbs better.
  2. Use a detangling comb or brush. Proper distribution is acquired throughout the hair by using a detangling brush or comb after applying the product. My preference is to use the Denman brush which I absolutely love! Remember that hair is most fragile when wet so you want to do this by running the brush/comb gently from end to root.
  3. Squeeze out the excess.  If you use too much product or it has a tendency to turn white taking forever and a day to dry, then get rid of the excess by simply grabbing small sections of hair and sandwiching it between your index and middle finger and gently running your finger down the hair shaft to slide the excess product off.
  4. Smooth your hair. If you choose to use heavier products like butters it may be more difficult to squeeze excess product out. In such cases simply smooth it in by grabbing a small section of your hair, place it between the palms of your hands then smooth down the length of your hair until the product disappears.

While it is impossible to change the porosity of your hair without causing damage, you can help to lift your cuticles safely and temporarily for better product absorption by applying products that are alkaline in nature such as a baking soda rinse after cleansing your hair. (When using a baking soda rinse, be sure to always rinse the product out afterwards.) After the treatment, you can apply product. With your cuticles raised, it will be easier for your hair to absorb the product. Once you are done, you will need to reseal your cuticle to prevent frizz, which you can be done easily with an acidic product like aloe vera gel.

In the science of hair care, Porosity is the term used to describe how easily water and other matter can diffuse back and forth through the cuticle layer into and out of the cortex. Hair, like a sponge, is capable of absorbing water and other substances from the environment, and is also susceptible to losing precious moisture and lipids to the environment. Maintaining an optimal balance of moisture in your hair preserves its suppleness, strength, and shine.


Are You Embracing Your Natural Beautiful?

“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives” Louise L. Hay

We have been conditioned by society to not only judge one another’s beauty but to put our beauty into categories. Hence we have done the same thing with our hair, especially in the African American culture. We have a range that goes from “good hair” to “nappy hair”. But I ask you to pose this question to yourself… What REALLY is good hair or nappy hair? Hair is hair! Yes it comes in different types and different textures, but who is the authority on whether it is good or bad?

I have always been told that I have “good hair” but since becoming educated on what good hair really is, I see all hair that is healthy, clean and groomed as “good” hair. And it is important that when we each look at our hair in the mirror, we appreciate that what we see is the specific type and texture that the Creator wanted us to have. Last time I checked EVERYTHING God made is good, by His own account.

Your beautiful is your beautiful and my beautiful is mine. Who I AM can only be defined by myself unless I, by my allowance, give that power over to others. The power to achieve lies within every individual and self-love is the first thing that we need to strive to have, by doing so we are able to show others how to embrace their natural self, as we embrace ours. After all who we are inside is always manifested outside of ourselves… as within so without.

My mission and focus is to bring awareness to the Natural Self and the importance of self-love, self-acceptance, self-healing, self-understanding, self-empowerment and self-awareness.

So let me put these questions to you to ponder on and answer within yourself:

  • How do you identify yourself?
  • What do you see when you look at yourself in the mirror?
  • Are you accepting of yourself and your natural beautiful?
  • Are you allowing others to define who you are?
  • Do you project to the world how you want to be seen.
  • When you receive opposition from others, do you try to identify what the lesson in the experience is for you? Are you receiving that which you give to yourself?

Honesty begins within. What the world sees in us is what we project out to it. Are you projecting your love for your natural beautiful?

Author: Denika Penn Carothers, Natural Hair & Hair Products available at Amazon or at within so without

How to Manage Bi-racial Hair Part 1


Well I don’t know if I would consider myself the “authority” on this subject but I am definitely a subject of this subject. As a bi-racial individual my hair has always been made out to be a challenge by every adult around me when I was a child and later on by me, having taken on everybody else’s opinions about my hair as I was growing up.

I heard everything from “your hair is so thick” (said with a furrowed brow and much expression in the voice) to “girl you have TOO much hair” (usually said by the hair stylist who I was paying to do my hair) to “girl you have good hair! What you relaxing it for?” (this coming from those who said it with an attitude because they wanted hair like mine).

When I made the decision to go natural, after relaxing my hair for 30 plus years, I learned there was a whole new aspect to my hair that I had never discovered before. Now at first it was definitely a pull and tug scenario, with many days of temptation to go and buy a jar of relaxer and slap it on my head, but as I allowed my natural hair to make its way on to and out of my head, I discovered something beautiful. I discovered that I had amazing hair, with amazing curls that was easy to manage once I embraced what it naturally was.

The most important thing I learned about my bi-racial hair was that it LOVED and NEEDED water and that I couldn’t over water it. Water helps hair to maintain its elasticity, softness, natural shine and strength and is the most natural source of moisture.

I also learned that my hair performed better when it was conditioned more than it was washed. What I mean by this is that I learned that conditioner can be used to clean my hair without drying it out. So I cut my shampoo washes down from once a week to once a month in the beginning stages. Now, however because I do apply conditioner and gel to my hair in between washes, I co-wash (wash with conditioner) every other week and shampoo on the alternate weeks.

Many “naturalistas” will tell you to detangle with a wide tooth comb. I have found that this does not work well for the overall look of my curls. I find that when I detangle with a comb my curls have a tendency to swell rather than lay, which is how I prefer them. My preferred method of detangling is with my fingers. Now you may, with eyes wide open, be wondering how on earth you detangle a thick head of hair (which most bi-racials have) with your fingers. The trick is to apply A LOT of conditioner to the hair before detangling. This is true for whatever method you choose to use to detangle. I apply conditioner to my hair in four or six sections to be sure that my hair strands are completely coated with the product. I also detangle my hair in sections once I have applied the conditioner. I promise you that if you use this method to detangle it will be so easy to do. In addition to the section being saturated with conditioner, if it is also very wet the fingers tend to slide on through.

One of my favorite conditioners to use is the Pantene Pro-V Daily Moisture Renewal.Bi-Racial Hair Denika Penn Carothers

Straightening the Hair without Chemical Processing


TextureNourishing is a process by which the hair’s cuticle is sealed by way of a strategic technique similar to flat ironing the hair using HerbalNature styling pomade.  It is EXCELLENT for anyone desiring style and versatility with natural hair or hair that is in transition from chemicals. This process may also be used on chemically treated hair.

TextureNourishing is a heat technique (press and pull) over the application of HerbalNature styling pomade or hair oil (  This process produces a dramatic change in the texture and health of the hair.  The hair has a smoother, more tamed texture and the benefit is a healthy and nourished head of hair. 

Understanding your hair’s texture and needs is important.  This process on some textures will require a more firm application and more heat than on others.  It is important to note that if you are transitioning, your new growth is stronger and more resilient than the chemically processed hair and will require more heat and a firmer application of the process; the new growth is the superior hair.  The chemically processed hair is more fragile and only requires a modest application in order to protect it in its delicate state; the chemically processed hair is the inferior hair.   This process is an excellent way to blend the two hair textures if you are transitioning from chemicals without doing the “big chop”. 

 The process can be done as follows:

  1.  After cleansing the hair with either sulfate-free shampoo or by way of co-washing you can choose to air dry your hair in a few plaits or do a blow out process using a handheld blow dryer.
  2. After your hair is dry, section your hair into small pieces and apply the HerbalNature styling pomade or hair oil from ends to root to each section being sure to apply it evenly.
  3. Using your flat iron go down the entire length of the hair shaft being sure to apply more pressure to the new growth than to the processed hair (you may need to go over the new growth 3 -4 times)  During the pressing process you are infusing the oils into the hair with the heat.   

Proper application will seal the hair’s outer cuticle and lock the bonds straight creating a barrier to moisture which prevents it from reverting to its virgin appearance until hair becomes wet.  The natural oils and waxes in the HerbalNature products safely styles the hair straight without compromising the integrity of virgin hair. 

This is an excellent alternative for chemical-sensitive individuals or anyone desiring to eliminate the use of chemical processing on their hair.  With proper technique and care TextureNourishing can:

  1.  Tame open cuticles that cause frizzy, dry-looking hair
  2. Allow straight hair styles to last with out reverting
  3. Elongate tight curl patterns with natural styles
  4. Blend textures of hair in transition – new growth and relaxed hair
  5. Add style versatility to natural hair without damaging its integrity
  6. Create polished, sleek, shiny hair with body and movement
  7. Transition to natural hair without having to do the “big chop”
  8. Make hair resistant to moisture, wind and static

Regular application of this process may result in the elongation of the hair shaft and the natural wave pattern in the hair may appear longer.  This occurs as a result of the heat process and the nourishing effect of the products penetrating the hair shaft and retraining the bonds to appear smoother.  The hair becomes tamed and uniformed in texture and appearance, while closing the cuticle to encourage shiny, strong and healthy hair.

What to do AFTER the Big Chop?


When you decide to transition from chemically processed hair to your natural hair it is important to understand that the initial hair you have is NOT your natural hair’s true texture.  The integrity and texture of hair that has been chemically processed over a long period of time has been compromised for years.  Internet research suggests that a study was done about 10 years ago on black women who chemically relaxed their hair.  The study found on women who had extensively relaxed their hair over a long period of time, a thin residue between the scalp and the skull from what they believe to have been as a result of the chemicals penetrating the scalp skin. 

In my opinion this is not hard to believe because the pores of our skin can be a point of entry as well as an exit point on the body.  If this was not possible then neither would the chemicals and ingredients of the nicotine patch, weight loss patch or other transdermal patches be able to get into the body’s blood stream via the pores.  We use products such as Vick’s vapor rub, Icy Hot and other sports crème’s  to penetrate the body to aid in healing. 

If this is indeed the result of chemical processing after years of relaxing the hair, this will not just dissipate over a few months time.  My understanding is that it actually takes anywhere from seven months to a year for this to disappear after ceasing the chemical process.  This would mean that you will not be able to achieve your hair’s true natural texture until all chemical residue has had the chance to vacate the body.  This is just my own personal theory, but I would think that as long as that chemical residue is there, the new growth passing through that film before surfacing the scalp would still be affected by chemicals.

For this reason I encourage my clients to be patient with the process of defining their curls and encouraging their true texture to come forth before becoming discouraged with the process.  We have trained our hair to be straight, now we have to train it to be curly. If you give your hair the care and attention it needs, I assure you that it will deliver back to you what you want in the way of appearance.  I have clients who started out with one texture and could not believe what they ended up with.  I too had this experience.  My curl pattern is FAR different from that which I started out with! Was not sure I could do it at first, but am so grateful that I stuck with the process because I LOVE the end result and you will too if you stick with and embrace the journey.

I must stress here that our hair was created to naturally do something.  My hair may not be able to do what your hair can and vice versa.  Taking the time to “learn” your hair will help you to appreciate what your hair naturally wants to do.  For example I have never met anyone who had natural black hair that had only ONE hair texture.  Personally I have four different textures and discovering this came through making a decision to learn my hair; what it is, what it needs and what it naturally wants to do.  The following is knowledge will tremendously help you on your journey:

  1. Most important when transitioning to natural hair is to keep the hair MOISTURIZED.  Natural hair loves moisture.  Do not over wash your hair, doing so can cause it to be very dry which is a real problem.  You need not shampoo your hair more than once a month, however at least once per week I recommend cleansing by way of the co-wash method (washing the hair with conditioner).  If you are going to cleanse with shampoo, it is better to use sulfate-free products.  If your hair has a tendency to be more on the dry side, you may find it necessary to refresh and remoisturize 1 – 2 times per week.
  2. Natural hair thrives better when less is done to it.  Your natural hair should not be combed or brushed in its dry state.  Doing so can cause dryness, breakage, shedding and frizz.  Your fingers are your best friends for styling.
  3. Understand that finding the right products for your particular hair type and texture will come mostly through trial and error.  What may work for your friend might not necessarily work for you.  Purchasing products in sample sizes is the best way to go if that is an option in the beginning of your natural journey.  Be patient with this process because finding the right products is essential to achieve the look you desire for your hair.  Use a good food-based oil such as extra virgin coconut oil, jojoba oil, sweet almond oil or grapeseed oil to seal in moisture.  (In a few cases I have found clients whose hair does not like oil, but more often than not oil has a great moisturizing benefit to the hair.)  Incorporate a conditioner that you leave in (regular conditioner can be used as a leave-in) and a styling product to define your curls.
  4. Stay away from products that contain petroleum by products or mineral oil.  These ingredients do NOT aid in moisture, they rather act as a barrier to moisture and can cause clogging of the pores.

I have authored a book entitled Natural Hair and Hair Products especially for women who desire to embrace and own their natural tresses and need to understand how they can best care for them.  You can purchase this in hard copy at or in e-book format by going to

Remember…..embrace and ENJOY the process for it truly is a beautiful journey.  Here’s to your natural beautiful journey!

What is MSM?

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MSM stands for methylsulfonylmethane.  It is a sulfur-based compound and is naturally found in foods such as milk, onions, garlic and green vegetables.  MSM is the 3rd largest compound found in the human body with water and salt being numbers 1 and 2.

In the medical community, MSM has been traditionally used to treat pain, bone and joint diseases such as osteoarthritis and tendonitis.  The side effect is………….HAIR GROWTH!  The main ingredient in MSM is sulfur which is one of the principle building blocks of hair and nails.  It is theorized that MSM increases hair growth potential by lengthening the growth phase (anagen phase) of the hair cycle.

MSM strengthens hair and nails.  Collagen and keratin are both critical for the production of healthy hair and nails.  MSM is a bona fide “beauty mineral” that provides the sulfur needed to produce collagen and keratin.  It is highly noted to contribute to exceptional strength and thickness of the hair and nails, which can be noticed in just a couple weeks of consistent use.

MSM is also regarded for the following:

  • Improving the health and complexion of the skin.
  • Detoxifying the body by making the cells more permeable, thereby allowing nutrients and water to flow freely into the cells.
  • Improving flexibility.
  • Accelerating healing by increasing the body’s ability to eliminate waste products at the cellular level.
  • Naturally increases energy.
  • Acting as a powerful anti-inflammatory.
  • Helps to maintain a proper PH balance.
  • Increases oxygen availability.
  • Helps to reduce inflammation and swelling.

You can find MSM supplements at any local health food store or pharmacy.  I personally order mine at (enter code KEM017 to get a discount).  However getting MSM in its most natural form from your food is always the better choice this however is sometimes not as easy to do.  I add MSM to my conditioning, rewetting spray and also drink it in orange juice as a supplement.  Even though MSM can be naturally obtained through a healthy diet, the MSM content in food can be diminished through the cooking process and other factors.

MSM is also used to treat a variety of conditions including.

  • Muscle and bone problems
  • Chronic pain
  • Hay fever
  • Allergies
  • Asthma
  • Snoring
  • Stretch marks
  • Wrinkles
  • Dental disease
  • Upset stomach
  • Constipation
  • PMS
  • High blood pressure
  • High cholesterol
  • Type 2 diabetes

Although there is no recommended daily allowance for MSM, high doses may cause nausea, diarrhea, bloating, fatigue, headaches, insomnia, itching or worsening of allergy symptoms in some individuals.  MSM is considered safe for most people however not much in the medical literature is known about its safety during pregnancy and breast-feeding.  If you are pregnant or breast-feeding, it would be wise to consult your physician before taking this or any other supplement.

How Are You Masking The Natural You?

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The bible tells us that if a woman has long hair, it is a glory to her; for her hair is given to her for a covering 1 Cor 11:15.

Cultural history

Hair is one of the most important ways humans have of both presenting themselves and judging one another socially, being one of the parts of their body which is easiest to manipulate. Throughout many cultures or viewpoints, but not in all, hair is seen as representing control over oneself,sexually, morally, or otherwise: those having long hair having less control than those having shorter or no hair. Also, having short, cut hair (or a shaven head) is often viewed as being under society’s control, such as while in prison or as punishment for a crime, while having long hair signifies being outside of the systems of society.[

Before World War I men generally had longer hair and beards. However, short hair on men has often been enforced as a means of control, in police, military and other forces that require obedience and discipline. Slaves and defeated armies were often required to shave their heads. The trench warfare of 1914 to 1918 exposed men to flee and lice infestations, which prompted the order to cut hair short, establishing a norm that has persisted.

Beat poets during the 1950s wore longer hairstyles, as did many of the urban gay culture, although long hair was far from popular. However, the 1960s introduced The Beatles, who started a widespread longer hair fad. The social revolution of the 1960s led to a renaissance of unchecked hair growth and long hair, especially on men, worn as a political or countercultural symbol or protest. This cultural symbol extended to several Western countries in the Americas, Western Europe, South Africa, and Australia. Specific long hairstyles such as dreadlocks have been part of counterculture movements seeking to define other alternative cultures and lifestyles since this time. Longer hair in general remained popular among the youth rebellion throughout the liberal decade of the 1960s.  Clergymen and conservative parents saw the long hair fad as a threat to gender identity, cultural, and religious norms as it grew with the spread of the hippie movement in the 1960s.

In the 1970s, the popularity of Jamaica‘s reggae music and musician Bob Marley prompted interest in dreadlocks internationally. The anti-establishment philosophy of Rastafari, echoed in much of the reggae of the time, resonated with left-leaning youth of all ethnicities — especially and primarily among African Americans and other Blacks, but among counter-culture whites as well. 

In the 1980s the view of long hair as a solitary signifier of political or counter-cultural identity was countered and parodied in films such as Rambo and many other militaristic heroes of media which challenged then-contemporary views of what was masculine. Today, longer hairstyles remain popular among heavy metal enthusiasts. Long hair may be grown for the purpose of being donated to an organization, such as Locks of Love, for hairpieces to help those who could not have hair otherwise, such as those who are diagnosed with alopecia areata.


Women often have a stronger inclination towards long hair than men do. Younger women tend to have longer hair than older women. Hair length and quality can act as a cue to a woman’s youth and health and, as such, signify reproductive potential. Growing and wearing long hair was almost universal among women in the western world until World War I.  Some feminists have declared long hair as “irrefutably feminine,” while others argue for shorter hair. Some religious scholars even believe that without hair or long hair, a woman is not complete. In some cultures, long, well-kept hair symbolizes wealth and luxury, as such hair is difficult to maintain in poverty.


Historically, East Asian cultures viewed long hair as a sign of youth and aesthetic beauty. Long hair is associated with private life and sexuality. East Asian cultures see long, unkept hair in a woman as a sign of sexual intent or a recent sexual encounter, as usually their hair is tied up. Lay Buddhists have long hair, while Buddhist monks have shaved heads. For Sikhs, Kesh is the practice of allowing one’s hair to grow naturally as a symbol of devotion to God and lack of worldliness. In Jewish and other cultures, shortening hair signifies mourning and sadness.

Native Americans

Many American Indian men wore long hair before the arrival of western influences on their culture. (In Cherokee legends, for example, males said to be handsome were often described as having “long hair almost to the ground” or similar formulas). Both men and women of these cultures have frequently struggled to maintain their tradition, but have faced heavy opposition. Many consider it a sign of giving in to western influences to have their hair cut.

Sub-Saharan Africans

In West African cultures, women with long hair were highly valued. Long, thick hair was seen as a sign of health, strength, and capability to bear many children. In keeping with this general theme, women who were too young for marriage would shave a portion of their heads to signal so. This tradition, however, did not extend to every African tribe, as several valued shorter hair.

African Americans

When black slaves were freed in the Americas, they struggled to reach the social status of whites. Many former slaves tried to conform their hairstyles as part of this struggle. African-American women felt pressured to make their hair straight like white women, rather than keeping the shorter, curlier style they had known.  However, during the civil rights movement of the 1950s and 60s, African-Americans such as Malcolm X advocated hairstyles such as afros and dreadlocks. Social pressures at the time were heavily influencing African-American females to have long, straight hair, like many Caucasians did.  Recently, scholars have observed continued pressure on blacks to have long, straight hair.

Amelian Jones believes that dolls marketed towards children add to this pressure, citing as an example a new black Barbie with long hair. Jones believes that African-American females should maintain their “African” cultural norms without feeling pressured to “tame” their hair.

This brief history is an effort for you to see how hair is viewed in different cultures and also the pressures within different cultures regarding how one should or should not wear/style their hair.  We all know and appreciate that history helps to define our thoughts, our opinions and the way we may or may not view something.

Throughout many generations and cultures people have masked their natural self to conform to the beliefs, opinions or expectations of others.   Many have been challenged and found it difficult to accept and display who they naturally are especially in regards to their hair.  Your natural self is and should be determined by you.

Someone tells you that you should be a size 6 but as far back as you can remember you have never been less than a size 12.  And furthermore you have always been comfortable with your size and who you are.   So who should determine your body size?  You, who knows your body type and your mindset towards your body type, or someone with an opinion of what size you should be.  Someone tells you that you have “bad hair” and should do something about it, but you know that your hair does not shed, does not break, has a wonderful shine and is strong and looks healthy.  So who should determine what your hair should look like?  And what is “bad hair”?  And furthermore what is “good hair”?

Good hair to me is hair that is healthy, strong, does not break or shed, or pop; hair that shines and is bouncy.  If I know that this is the type of hair that I have, why am I going to let someone else’s opinion dictate what my hair should look like.  Why am I going to mask the “natural” me to appease someone else?  In what other areas of our lives do we appease others and deep down inside our spirits we know that we are compromising who we are to be “accepted” by someone else?

The bible admonishes us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. One of the definitions that I found for transformation is “a change in disposition, heart, character, or the like; conversion”. The word renew means reestablish on a new, usually improved, basis or make new or like new.  What the above scripture says to me is that in order to be changed from a state that does not serve us from a higher perspective and value, we must first consciously acknowledge that our mindset and the way we think about things needs to improve.

I ask you all to consider and ponder this question today……..what is your mindset, your thought process regarding God’s creation in the person of you?  In reflecting on this question it is important that you intentionally journey on an honest path with yourself.  Are the thoughts that you are carrying about yourself today serving you at the highest place of truth and divinity.  What was God’s purpose for creating you and are you endeavoring to fulfill that purpose or are you just rolling with the punches and accepting whatever may come your way?  Or worse, allowing other people’s opinions to shape you into someone you were not created to be?